How To Impress A Girl: The Bad Advice And Weird Ideas That Ruin Your Chances
Most single men want to know how to impress a girl, so you aren’t alone in wanting to find out. In fact, you’re in very good company indeed!
That said, it’s not as complex as you may think. Women may have high standards, but programs like the Girlfriend System V2 prove they aren’t really that cryptic or indecipherable. If you listen to most men who say it’s impossibly hard, you’ll realize they missed the point somewhere along the line.
A lot of the false thinking that occurs on the subject often surrounds the idea that women only pay attention to wild, overblown gestures. While this type of thing seems to work well in fictional romance novels and movies, it’s more entertainment than reality. So while the hero of a romantic novel may be able to win his girl by bursting into song and swearing undying love on their first meeting, in reality this approach is not the best way to impress a woman.
Women are people, and people are complex and sometimes very contrary. So while the advice in this article is usually effective, there are no guarantees that it will work for every woman on Earth.
When it comes to impressing girls in the real world, it’s often the small things that work best. Things like taking care of your personal hygiene and dressing nicely go a long way. Good manners are essential too.
You don’t need to act like some 18th century cavalier by throwing your jacket into a puddle so she can walk over it. However, simple acts of kindness, such as offering to hang her coat for her, opening doors and letting her go first, listening to her, and being understanding are still goods ways to make a good impression. It’s all about maintaining some basic human decency.
As mentioned above, there is plenty of bad advice floating around about how to impress a woman (usually from bitter men who have been stung more than once.) Some of it’s so obviously wrong, you have to wonder how anyone ever accepts it.
One example is the misguided advice that recommends ignoring a woman’s calls or texts for several days so she knows you’re “busy and in demand.” If you want to come across as totally rude, go right ahead. Jeannie Assimos of eHarmony points out this is an approach that almost always backfires, and we have to agree.
A lady who’s trying to contact you is probably already impressed – don’t go and ruin it! There are definitely better ways to show her you have a life.
Sometimes, men fail to impress women because of things they aren’t completely aware of. In a recent article on the UK version of Ask Men, Andrew Moore points out that women don’t like it when a man stares at their chest.
I doubt anyone will be surprised to hear this. But the truth is, many men do this without even realizing it. It’s so easy to check out women’s attributes from a distance without getting caught, but when you’re up close, your eyes can betray you.
Even if it’s totally innocent, most women find it really creepy. If you want to impress a girl, use a little self-discipline and remember to maintain eye contact.
Andrew Moore also points out that women are interested in men who fit in with their social network. In other words, they want a man who can get along with their friends and family. So don’t ignore her friends, even if she’s the only one you’re interested in.
Compliments are another area where most men manage to trip up spectacularly. Paying massively overblown compliments will come across as insincere and may appear like an attempt to ingratiate yourself (which is probably true).
If you’re not careful, complimenting a lady’s figure directly can get you in trouble. If you’re approaching a woman for the first time, don’t say, “Damn girl! Your butt looks amazing!” Do say, “That dress looks stunning on you.”
Speaking of shooting yourself in the foot, smartphones make it easier to do that today, too! Whereas the men of the past had to actually get up and walk away to induce rage in their dates, your phone can achieve the same objective much quicker. Just take a phone call or write a text in the middle of your conversation with her, and she’s guaranteed to hate you forever. Ok, “hate” is probably too strong of a word, but she definitely won’t be impressed.
Remember, it’s rude to mess around with your phone when you should be giving her your attention. And unless you’re a doctor on call, switch the phone to silent before the date starts!
The question of “how to impress a girl” is not as complex as it seems at first. Actually, most confusion is caused by bad advice and weird ideas we pick up from movies and romantic literature. There is also a factor of natural insecurity which contributes to the problem. The insecurity will pass with experience, so if you want to impress her, make sure you steer clear of weird sounding advice, and you’ll be just fine!